Monday, 3 February 2014

I should be so lucky! – October 2013

Over the years I have witnessed others materialise their innermost wishes, one by one and this got me thinking… is it fate? The stars aligning to bring together people, ideas, events and settings because it’s destined to be. Or just sheer luck? A fortuitous encounter and being in the right place at the right time. Are some people born lucky? Or do they know a secret formula which enables them to have all they desire? In any case, how does one entice luck to them? In my quest for answers I was astounded to uncover the common thread between those who attracted good luck and in due course achieved their wants was this: they all eagerly accepted opportunities when they arrived.

To me, an opportunity is a favourable offer that may lead to the attainment of a desire and bring about the happiness we crave and seek. You can take it or leave it, it’s your choice but just remember the wise adage “Opportunity knocks but once.” One moment it is here imploring you to answer its call then all too soon it is gone and so is the blessing, and as Paolo Coelho stated in The Alchemist “every blessing ignored becomes a curse.”  Those who stall in taking up an opportunity when it appears are known as procrastinators. Or as Mae West so bluntly put it “He who hesitates is a damned fool.” Rather than make a quick decision, procrastinators wait… and wait… until it is too late and the opportunity is lost forever, leaving feelings of disappointment and deep regret in its wake.

We’re all guilty of deferring action and in doing so have carelessly let slide opportunities within our reach, thereby allowing good luck and happiness to elude us. I am no exception. The question is why? In my experience, procrastination comes from within and is connected to low confidence and impulsiveness. (Note: the contradiction of acting hastily to delay acting is not lost on me!). My delay where action was required was due to a combination of my self-doubts and stubbornness – my ego wanting and waiting for the circumstances to come about in a perfect and particular way, not as they actually did causing me to impulsively push back without any consideration for the consequences: this specific moment happens only once and will never happen again. Over time, my wavering became habit and is the reason I find myself in my current predicament. As is often the case, we blame others, external incidents and the environment for our unfavourable situations without realising we are the culprit.

Subsequently, it is imperative we recognise, confront and overpower procrastination for progress to occur and success to be achieved and the good news is this is possible. We have the ability to defeat this powerful, unforgiving enemy hindering our actions and destroying our chances of happiness. How? By acknowledging our lingering is only our insecurities and ignorance masked as baseless excuses for non-action and prevailing over it with determination. When this happens ask yourself: But for these fears, would I forge ahead and do because I truly want this? Your heart will respond.

Then, how do we tip the odds in our favour? By accepting an opportunity and the only way to do this is to ACT. We must take immediate action when an opportunity to have something we desire arises. The easiest way to do this is to adopt a decisive mentality because it our choices not chances that determine our lot in life. Our wish won’t just happen by some preordained force so, we need to release any preconceived, idealistic notions we hold about our request transpiring before our very eyes without any active participation whatsoever. It doesn’t work that way. The only way to realise our most heartfelt longings is by deciding to take action in the moment. You reap what you sow; everything that happens to us is the result of our efforts. Through our efforts we demonstrate we are deserving of our wants and in this way lure Lady Luck into our life, for action and good fortune are interdependent.

We all long to be ‘lucky’ and ultimately happy and we can be but our qualms hold us back from playing our part and in turn we miss out. Fret not! Other, similar opportunities will come your way so be ready and choose to take a chance as life is not a dress rehearsal. Stop playing the waiting game and passively yearning for your dreams to magically appear and seamlessly pan out at the hand of the Goddess of Destiny. Pledge from this point forth you will quickly seize an opportunity the instant is arrives as you may never get another chance. Believe me, the worst feeling is ‘what could have been.’ Listen to your heart and take heed of the signs around you supporting your decision for action and with tenacity and purpose subdue any reservations that arise. Remember, the making of a decision is only the beginning of greater good fortune which will invariably propel you toward the fulfilment of your desires.

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” ~ William Jennings Bryan.             

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